Tour: Submission I
The most typical story is that you learned your husband/boyfriend is submissive. Probably this is not happy news. It contradicts your image of what a man should be, and it might not fit what you need.
But the ideal man would submit to a higher moral code, not just satisify his own selfish desires. The ultimate in service is for a man to give up his life to protect his wife/girlfriend, a service most men would willingly provide. The ideal man would work every day to help you provide for home and family.
So, think twice before you wish those submissive tendencies would go away.