Tour: Domination I
It is probably not your nature or training to dominate. You are joining the club of reluctant Goddesses.
But the skills -- and responsibilities -- are not so different from being the mother of a child. You take charge. Your word is law. You have to punish your children when they misbehave.
But don't think of your husband/boyfriend as another child needing your care. Think of him as a talented, harnessable resource for helping you take care of home and family. Oh, you already assumed he would do that, but without any guidance? You might be wrong about the guidance part.