You should now know this is a good opportunity for you. Hopefully you have the spirit of love and caring, but this should also improve your relationship.

You have three goals in dominating.

• Happiness. You want to be happy, and you want him to be happy.
• Knight. You have some real power. Encourage him to be a knight. To start, he might be more interested in being a slave, because he is starving for control. But sooner or later he will warm to the knight role.
• Be in charge. You cannot just do what he says. Sooner or later he will notice that he is in charge, and that won't fulfill his needs. Also, he might not have very good judgment about what he needs. Yes, find out what he wants, but be in charge.