I am happy to have found your website & am hopeful I can find the way to introduce my wife to caring domination. I do have one question or concern: my wife very rarely initiates sex. She is generally responsive when I ask for it, but doesn't ask for it herself. Neither does she take any initiative during sex: I have to ask her to touch me a certain way, etc. So my question is this: will I ever get any sex if I give control of our love-life over to my wife, & if my fear is well-founded, how can I encourage her to initiate the sex that I want? I confess that part of the fascination of caring domination is the very idea of having my wife initiate sex & give me some (unasked for) attention during it.
| RE: Question|
I had two thoughts. I followed one couple as she learned to dominate, and she became more confident and assertive. That might happen to your wife. Or if she just likes to be passive and you are her sex slave, you might be usually initiating for her.
| RE: Question|
Thank you, Miss Cynthia,for your reply.
I suppose either way would be okay, though I confess I'd really, *really* like her to take the initiative. I may have a way of bringing the subject up... (& you are right, the "Real Women Don't Do Housework" site is full of very good ideas, though, as you say, it is a bit selfish).
The last couple of days I've been practicing "hidden submission" --to my great arousal --, & last night our time together was one of the best & most tender we've had in ages. I really do want to serve my wife & her pleasure. It gives me a great deal of joy & satisfaction to know I've made her happy. I told her that, in fact, & also that my deepest heart's desire was to serve her. I hope she heard that, & in the right way. (By the way, I left a heartfelt, hand-written thank-you note & some chocolates in her car at work this morning so she will find them when she gets off.)
I've suggested, on a few occasions in the past, that we play Mistress & slave, but she never liked that idea & the last time simply rejected it (we haven't discussed why, but I think she dislikes the associations of cruelty & humiliation the words conjure up). She does seem to be happier with the image of a Lady & her knight. (I thank you for that image.)
We'll see how this all develops. We're going to have to have an explicit discussion about it sooner or later. If the price of falling head over heels in love with my wife all over again & getting great sex is doing some housework or other chores, then buy me an apron & call me Heloise. It'll be worth it.