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Cynthia
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10/03/2003
10:18:54
Subject: How can you hurt someone you love?
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This was a question from a wife.


tamlyonne
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10/04/2003
00:29:57
RE: How can you hurt someone you love?
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Dear Cynthia:
I'm so happy that you are back, I hope you had a relaxing vacation.Welcome back!
If the person referred to above were my wife, fat chance, and the "victim" was me, I would say that her hand on me, however harsh, was an assurance that I was cared for, and that I was valued enough to correct. Now I know that that is just a submissive fantasy, but a slap or a bruise from my mistress would be a badge of honour. I have been hurt for real before without love, and believe me, love transforms pain or control into something more beautiful.



tamlyonne
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10/04/2003
16:24:28
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My above reply came out a little wrong. I don't think I want to be hurt, but if I were cuffed or slapped or corrected in any other fashion, verbally or physically, I would be happy that the other person cared enough to correct me and proud that I could take the correction in the way it was intended.
If I willingly gave my power to another in a love relationship I would be blissful if the power was used.


Dee
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10/05/2003
22:10:17
RE: How can you hurt someone you love?
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Dear Cynthia:

I have asked myself that question several times:
How & why? Because I care enough...it would hurt my submissive more by not correcting him.

I am happy to have found your website. Thanks for caring to share. I am a newbie to domination & I have discovered it is in my nature to be that way. Caring domination is what I feel comfortable with. The images of a cruel dominatrix are not for me.

After ending a sad marriage of 25 years, I found a loving relationship with a submissive shortly after. He is very comfortable with sharing his needs with me & his strong desire to serve me & please me.

He needs correction & control. I strongly need to learn so I can be more confident.I have never felt so complete in my life.

I am at a point in which I need outside guidence.
I need a "guide" or reference to what other caring doms do to correct their knights & for what behavior...not to copy but to compare & explore possiblities for myself.

Caring Doms and submissives please share with me & the above wife.






DanW
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10/13/2003
11:58:43
RE: How can you hurt someone you love?
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Not to overlook that when mixed with sexual arousal, pain responses can quickly turn to pleasure responses; hence, the term sensation play. Think of things like bites, nipple pinching, scratches, etc ....


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